Love Letter: The Guest Star in Our Relationship

"With a new script in our hands, we wondered, could this be our comeback?"

View in browser|nytimes.com Continue reading the main story October 28, 2022 By Miya Lee After six years together, Evan Sterrett and his boyfriend were stuck in a dispiriting loop: They would fight about the same issues, time and again, as if they were characters in a predictable, no-longer-funny sitcom. Then, they met a cute younger man at a Los Angeles pool party. Could this guest star in their relationship allow them to break free from their tired, old scripts? Find out in Mr. Sterrett's funny Modern Love essay, "A Throuple's Tricky Geometry." MODERN LOVE "With all his youthful energy and optimism, the Third had resuscitated our joie de vivre. This was our summer of love." Brian Rea Modern Love A Throuple's Tricky Geometry In a couple, a straight line connects two points. With three people in a relationship, many more configurations emerge. By Evan Sterrett MORE MODERN LOVE Read the latest batch of Tiny Love Stories or listen to the latest episode of the Modern Love podcast. Brian Rea Modern Love Tiny Love Stories: 'We Hadn't Made Love in Months' Modern Love in miniature, featuring reader-submitted stories of no more than 100 words. Brian Rea Not the Daughter She Wanted When it comes to whom she loves, an immigrant daughter can't make her mother happy. But she holds on to hope, as her mother always taught her to do. Continue reading the main story ADVERTISEMENT LOVE AND MARRIAGE "The man she had been gradually falling in love with had been in a horrific snowboarding accident in Vermont that left him quadriplegic." Natalie Keyssar for The New York Times VOWS An 'Aggressive Love for Life' Regardless of Life's Challenges Months after Bradley Carbone met Barbara Torasso, he broke his neck snowboarding. A long recovery brought them closer together. By Tammy La Gorce Juan & Talia Pinnel MINI-VOWS With Scorpio and Pisces Rising, a Compatible Love Match Natalie Labriola and Taylor Scruggs were more than just astrologically suited to each other: He also folded her laundry impeccably. By Julia Carmel Smeeta Mahanti MINI-VOWS After Several False Starts, 'Sunday Conversations' Brought Them Closer Janine Lee and Janeine Spencer, who bonded over a shared name, had an on-again, off-again relationship for years until they began to see a future together. By Alix Wall Daniela Monzi, Gemini Sun Creative mini-vows Looking Past His Tinder Profile, and Her Fake Name Katherine Turner wasn't sure Robert Sparks was the right match for her, but she decided to give dating a try anyway. Several weeks later, the two had fallen in love. By Vivian Ewing ASK THE EXPERTS "I wish you the best of luck in dating her ex (with whom she may have had sex)." Miguel Porlan Social Q's Should I Tell a Young Relative That Her Grandmother Tried to Swindle Me? A reader wonders whether to explain the history of a bitter family rift to a great-niece who she suspects does not know the whole story. By Philip Galanes Illustration by Tomi Um The Ethicist Her Brother Most Likely Died From Autoerotic Asphyxiation. Do I Tell Her? The Times's Ethicist columnist on disclosing medical information in the most difficult of circumstances. By Kwame Anthony Appiah LOVE IN THE NEWS "I never saw condoms as a career, but after I got into it, it made perfect sense." B Condoms How a Black-Owned Condom Brand Pitches Itself as the Right Fit To distinguish itself in a crowded market, B Condoms floods its Instagram account with sex and wellness tips, many of them explicit. By Brian Josephs Graham Roumieu Field Notes Are Wedding Sweepstakes Worth It? Contests that offer to cover all or some wedding costs can seem to have few downsides. But experts and sweepstakes winners say there are things to look out for. By Hilary Sheinbaum Pool photo by Stephane De Sakutin Prince Harry's Memoir Is Due in January. How Explosive Will It Be? The memoir is expected to be a best seller but, after the queen's death, some royal experts and industry executives say the project has become risky for Harry. By Elizabeth A. Harris and Alexandra Alter Theo Stroomer for The New York Times Missing the Home You Needed to Leave There is a name for the specific type of grief that both refugees and migrants experience. It's called "cultural bereavement." By Alisha Haridasani Gupta Netflix On Comedy Stand-Up Comics and the Parent Trap Specials from Nick Kroll, Hasan Minhaj and other young dads and moms show just how difficult it is to mine fresh insights from such worked-over terrain. By Jason Zinoman Continue reading the main story ADVERTISMENT We want to hear your stories. Here's how to submit a Modern Love essay or an Unhitched column. Don't feel like writing more than two tweets, an Instagram caption or a Facebook post? Consider submitting to Tiny Love Stories, which are no more than 100 words. Continue reading the main story Need help? Review our newsletter help page or contact us for assistance. You received this email because you signed up for Love Letter from The New York Times. To stop receiving these emails, unsubscribe or manage your email preferences. Subscribe to The TimesGet The New York Times app Connect with us on: Change Your EmailPrivacy PolicyContact UsCalifornia Notices The New York Times Company. 620 Eighth Avenue New York, NY 10018