Saturday, May 21, 2022

The Morning: Fun, but with structure

Dungeons & Dragons and other role-playing diversions.

Good morning. When socializing is stressful, rule-bound role-playing games can offer some relief.

Allie Sullberg

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Growing up in the 1980s, I knew there were kids like those on "Stranger Things," which returns Friday for its fourth season, who spent their after-school hours playing Dungeons & Dragons. I was not one of them; I played with Barbies. I figured what I was doing with dolls — acting out scenes involving homework, school dances and what happened last weekend at the plastic pool — was a far cry from the secretive world of the D&D table, with its arcane mythos and complicated rules.

It wasn't until 2000, when an episode of the show "Freaks and Geeks" featured kids playing D&D, that I got a glimpse into how role-playing games worked. In essence, it was not so different from what my friends and I were doing with Barbies: imagining and then inhabiting characters, writing stories collaboratively, escaping reality while developing real-life social skills.

While I retired my Barbies by the time puberty hit, the universe of Dungeons & Dragons is intricate and expansive enough that it has continuing appeal for adults. In fact, it has so fully emerged from nerd-dom that it has become "something of a social flex — the antithesis of the popularity contest that was the 1990s and early 2000s, an antidote to our more basic tendencies," Amelia Diamond writes in The Times this morning. Vin Diesel plays. So does Tiffany Haddish.

I've written about how socializing is weird lately. D&D offers one way to alleviate some of the anxiety. Rules govern interactions, and a dungeon master who acts as both narrator and referee enforces them. In the safety of this container, players explore, improvise, cocreate worlds.

"All of us at times feel a little inadequate in dealing with the modern world," Gary Gygax, one of the creators of D&D, once said. "It would feel much better if we knew that we were a superhero or a mighty wizard."

D&D and other role-playing games, improv comedy, murder-mystery parties where each guest is assigned a part in a whodunit, even escape rooms: They're all creative, rule-bound forms of fun where scenes are created in real time and success requires teamwork and trust.

They're lo-fi ways to socialize through performance, a relief from social media venues that insist we perform as ourselves for an audience of friends and followers. These activities give us permission to play, to drop our inhibitions and try on new personas. They let us escape into another world for a little while.

Ideas for structured fun that you recommend? Drop me a line.

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WEEKENDS ARE FOR …

🍿 Movies: Five action flicks to stream.

🎧 Audiobooks: Six picks.

πŸ‘Ÿ Exhibitions: Sneakers that were among the designer Virgil Abloh's final projects are going on display in Brooklyn.

🎼 Opera: "The Wreckers," a rarely staged work, premieres in Britain.

πŸ–Ό Art: Six fairs in New York City.

THE WEEK IN CULTURE

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RECIPE OF THE WEEK

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Jordan Marsh's Blueberry Muffins

I've always been a strong advocate for eating dessert for breakfast, which is part of why Jordan Marsh's blueberry muffins have been on my radar for a while. I finally whipped up a batch this past week, using thawed frozen berries as suggested in the recipe notes. And I'm here to report that these purple-speckled beauties are truly deserving of their 11,000-ish five-star ratings. Yes, they are distinctly cupcake-like: fluffy and sugary, and completely delightful with your morning cup of coffee or tea. But if the idea of cake before noon puts you off, serve them as a midafternoon snack or even dessert — the after-dinner kind of dessert, that is.

REAL ESTATE

Clockwise from left: Donato Di Natale and Clinton Meyer; Matt Anello/Blu Skye Media; Peter Lyons for Sotheby's International Realty

What you get for $2.7 million in California: A midcentury-style retreat in Palm Springs, an Edwardian in Palo Alto or a renovated home in Sonoma.

The hunt: They wanted an Upper West Side home for under $800,000. Which did they choose? Play our game.

Low volume: One of the world's quietest rooms is in midtown Manhattan.

Disappearing treasures: Open houses are often the scene of small-scale thefts.

Lost in translation: The language of house listings can mask all manner of problems.

LIVING

Meaghan Thomas and Thomas McGee at home in Louisville, Ky.Luke Sharrett for The New York Times

Still staycationing: Some travelers are opting for trips closer to home.

Makeup trends: People want a "healthy, horny flush" now.

Culinary adventures: Pairing food and wine.

Pushing boundaries?: Mullets are back, though perhaps without the shock value they once had.

GAME OF THE WEEKEND

The goalie Igor Shesterkin is a major part of the Rangers' success this season.Bruce Bennett/Getty Images

Carolina Hurricanes vs. New York Rangers, N.H.L. playoffs: The Rangers are hot. Down 3-1 in the last round, they beat the Penguins three games in a row to win the series. "They have the best goalie in the league this year, Igor Shesterkin," David Waldstein, a Times reporter who has been covering the playoffs, tells us. "They are really fun to watch and are becoming a big story in New York. Lots of folks are jumping on their bandwagon." Game 3 is 3:30 p.m. Eastern on Sunday on ESPN.

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NOW TIME TO PLAY

The pangram from yesterday's Spelling Bee was raunchy. Here is today's puzzle — or you can play online.

Take the news quiz to see how well you followed this week's headlines.

Here's today's Wordle. If you're in the mood to play more, find all our games here.

Before You Go …

Thanks for spending part of your weekend with The Times. — Melissa

Claire Moses, Ian Prasad Philbrick, Tom Wright-Piersanti, Ashley Wu and Sanam Yar contributed to The Morning. You can reach the team at themorning@nytimes.com.

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Canada Letter: Reflecting on royal visits past

Prince Charles isn't Canada's favorite royal, and it shows.

Watching Members of the Royal Family Shake Hands and Then Shake More Hands

Prince Charles, who will most likely become Canada's king, despite many polls indicating that few Canadians like the idea of him as head of state, made a speedy tour across much of the country with Camilla, his wife, this week. They arrived in St. John's, Newfoundland and Labrador, dropped by Ottawa and finally moved onto Yellowknife in the Northwest Territories, as well as the Yellowknives Cree First Nation community in Dettah, before flying home.

The end of the three-day visit to Canada by Prince Charles and Camilla, his wife, to mark Queen Elizabeth's 70 years on the throne.Aaron Vincent Elkaim for The New York Times

As they arrived, I wrote about Canadians' antipathy toward Charles succeeding Queen Elizabeth, his mother, on the throne, as well as about the constitutional and political difficulties surrounding any effort to change the country's head of state.

Among the people I spoke with was Philippe LagassΓ©, an associate professor at Carleton University and an expert on the role of the monarchy in Canada. He has some interesting proposals about how the country might reconcile disagreements between monarchists and those who support having a Canadian head of state without revising the constitution.

This week's royal tour, the final day of which I covered with my colleagues Dan Bilefsky and Vjosa Isai, was hardly my first one.

Technically, my introduction came when I was three years old. In a sailor suit purchased for the occasion and holding a small Union Jack, I watched Queen Elizabeth's motorcade travel up Ouellette Avenue, the main street of Windsor, Ontario, after she'd arrived to town on her long since decommissioned royal yacht.

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Queen Elizabeth in Oakville, Ontario, during a royal tour in 2002.Andy Clark/Reuters

The first time I reported on a royal tour was in July 1981, when I was a student reporter at The Globe and Mail. The Queen Mother and Princess Margaret traveled around to various places in Ontario for reasons I have long forgotten.

Much of the time, royal tours are mostly about photographs and video of the visitors shaking hands, and then shaking more hands. There's often relatively little for reporters to write about: Members of the royal family rarely give speeches during their visits, usually one at the most. Charles did, in fact, speak to an enthusiastic crowd in Yellowknife shortly before departing on Thursday, about the need to combat climate change and to achieve reconciliation with Indigenous people.

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Reporters are usually kept at a distance at these events, making eavesdropping on the royal visitors' conversations with Canadians impossible. Follow-up conversations with the people whom they meet often suggest that the aristocratic visitors mostly ask general questions, nod and listen.

Interviews with the royals, of course, are out of the question. During the 1981 trip by Margaret and the Queen Mother, there was an off-the-record cocktail reception with them and the reporters covering the tour. Warren Barton, The Globe's metro editor at the time, rightly believed that, as stand-ins for readers, reporters shouldn't hobnob with aristocrats if they can't tell their readers about it. So, I was ordered to stand outside the hotel reception room in silent protest.

But no one balked when I was required to rent a tuxedo to attend an arts gala that Margaret opened.

Prince Charles following his speech in Yellowknife on Thursday.Aaron Vincent Elkaim for The New York Times

For this most recent trip, I didn't bring a suit, let alone a tuxedo. But the trip did pose some of the same logistical challenges of my first tour, when some scheduling confusion left me stranded overnight in Timmins, Ontario. Because of my student finances at the time, I had neither a credit card nor the cash for a hotel room. This week, only the British news media covering Charles and Camilla and a few news agency photographers could book seats on a Royal Canadian Air Force Airbus that tagged along behind the jet carrying the royal couple. Matching the planes' movements on commercial flights was an impossibility, so I just traveled directly to Yellowknife.

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This was the second time since 2009 that I've followed Charles around for The Times. I also reported on Prince William, Charles's son, and Kate, the duchess of Cambridge, on their first international visit, in 2011. And Dan Bilefsky and I wrote extensively about Prince Harry and Meghan, his wife, during their temporary move to British Columbia. In 2016, the very first edition of this newsletter mentioned another visit by William and Kate to Canada.

But I've never been assigned to cover the first royal visitor I saw. And with Queen Elizabeth's health at 96 years old increasingly becoming a cause for concern, it's unlikely I'll have another opportunity to do so.

Trans Canada

Bruce Mau returning to his childhood home in Sudbury, Ontario, in a scene from the documentary film "Mau."Greenwich Entertainment

This week's Trans Canada section was compiled by Vjosa Isai, a Canada news assistant at The New York Times.

  • Bruce Mau, a celebrated graphic designer, said in an interview with The Times: "I didn't even know the word design, but the moment that you have a particular outcome in mind, you become a designer. Systematically executing an outcome is design." His life, including the domestic violence he experienced at his childhood home in Sudbury, Ontario, and the start of his journey in the world of design in Toronto, are explored in the new documentary film "Mau."
  • The Cannes Film Festival is on for another week, and it will have the Canadian director David Cronenberg competing for the Palme d'Or with his first film in eight years. Called "Crimes of the Future," the movie will screen on May 23.
  • For the Vancouver-born actress Sarah Goldberg, the leap from theater to television was daunting. But Goldberg, 36, found her footing, landing an Emmy nomination and creating a buzz around her starring role on the HBO dark comedy "Barry."
  • Public health agencies around the world are reporting cases of monkeypox, including several in Montreal.
  • The Maple Leafs ended their N.H.L. playoff run, but the Edmonton Oilers and Calgary Flames are meeting in round two for the first time since 1991, the last Battle of Alberta.
  • The chef Matty Matheson has opened a new restaurant in Toronto's trendy Queen Street West neighborhood. The setting, a kind of airy wood cathedral, signals Mr. Matheson's level-up from the persona he developed in his cooking videos. "I'm 40 now, and Prime Seafood Palace is a very mature, beautiful, thoughtful restaurant," Mr. Matheson said in an interview with T: The New York Times Style Magazine.
  • In Opinion, the writer Jane Coaston reflects on whether it is necessary to overcome fear and anxiety. She spoke to Martin Antony, a professor of psychology at Toronto Metropolitan University and the co-author of "The Anti-Anxiety Program."

A native of Windsor, Ontario, Ian Austen was educated in Toronto, lives in Ottawa and has reported about Canada for The New York Times for the past 16 years. Follow him on Twitter at @ianrausten.

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